SubhanALLAH

Disbelief after Belief

Hudhayfah ibn al-Yamaan (radi Allahu anhu) said: “The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, ‘What I fear the most for you is a man who reads the Quran until its beauty appears on his face and his cloak is Islam; he continues in this manner until Allah wills that he should shed that cloak and cast it behind him. Then he goes to his neighbour wielding a sword and accuses him of shirk.’ I said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, which of them is more deserving of being put to the sword, the accuser or the accused?’ He said, ‘The accuser.’” [Abu Yala; Tafseer Ibn Katheer]

Although a person may have adopted the demeanour of piety, Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) knows what motivations and feelings are inside a person. He (subhana wa ta’ala) tests people so that the good and the bad are sorted out, in the same way that flour is sifted to separate it from impurities.

When these tests come, people shed aside pretences and act according to what is in their hearts. Shaitaan had made a great show of his piety but when told to bow before Adam (alaihis salam), the arrogance he had kept concealed revealed itself and he refused to accept Allah’s orders. His show of obedience and worship evaporated into thin air and he began arguing with Allah (subhana wa ta’ala).

He who does not genuinely love other Muslims and does not sincerely want them to go to Jannah will be quick in drawing the sword on them. This hadith mentions that he will use the excuse of their committing shirk. This was how the Khawaarij conducted themselves.

People in every age and clime will be tested by Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) to sort the dwellers of Jannah from the dwellers of Jahannum. O Allah! Please don’t allow us to fail in this test.

Ameen.

Beautiful advice from a mother to her daughter on the day of her nikah

Beautiful advice from a mother to her daughter on the day of her Nikaah

Jamharah Khutah al-‘Arab, 1/145

‘Abd al-Malik (RA) said: “When ‘Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn ‘Amr al-Kindi, she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother, Umamah came into her, to advise her and said:

‘O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you posses these qualities, but it will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise.

‘O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her father’s wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as men were created for them.

‘O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion to whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you, he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.

‘Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you.

‘The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one’s husband pleases Allah.

‘The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume.

‘The fifth and sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry.

‘The seventh and eight of them are: take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management.

‘The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you.

‘Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former shows a lack of judgment whilst the latter will make him unhappy.

‘Show him as much honour and respect as you can, and agree with him as much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation.

‘Know, O my daughter, that you will not achieve what you would like to until you put his pleasure before your own, and his wishes before yours, in whatever you like and dislike. And may Allah choose what is best for you and protect you.”