Monday, July 11, 2011

Marginal notes to the BBC documentation about our Prophet (saw)

In a ground-breaking first for British television, this three-part series presented by Rageh Omaar charts the life of Muhammad, a man who - for the billion and half Muslims across the globe - is the messenger and final prophet of God.
In a journey that is both literal and historical, and beginning in Muhammad's birthplace of Mecca, Omaar investigates the Arabia Muhammad was born into - a world of tribal loyalties and polytheistic religion.
Drawing on the expertise and comment of some of the world's leading academics and commentators on Islam, the programme examines Muhammad's first marriage to Khadijah and how he received the first of the revelations that had such a profound effect both on his life, and on the lives of those closest to him. 

So far the describtion on the homepage from BBC. Though it is still not available worldwide (in Switzerland i couldn't watch the documentation yet) i got a nice summary from a friend in UK, who saw it. Here her describtion - based on that documentation:
He was handsome, of medium height, very active, walked rapidly which forced his companions to race to keep up with him. People reported seeing light around his body and in his face, which they compared to the sun or the full moon. His skin was white and turned rosy from exposure to the sun. He had black eyes and a thick beard. 
He was humble and did not allow his companions to stand up when he met them or kiss his hand. He sat with his companions where he happened to be. A stranger walking into the room could not tell who the Prophet was by his position in the group.
He joked with his companions, played with their kids and put them in his lap. He loved his grandchildren, played with them, and even carried them on his shoulder while conducting the ritual prayers.

He smiled most of the time and disliked to say no. When asked a question he didn't want to answer, he remained silent. When given a choice, he always chose the easiest option. He emphasized that Islam is the Golden Mean and discouraged extremes of behavior.

He accepted all invitations, all apologies, all presents. He returned favors with equal or higher value presents. He visited the sick, was the first to greet people he met, was the last to pull away when shaking hands with someone or embracing him. He always listened to others until they finished what they had to say.

In the mosque, he cut the group prayer short if he heard a child crying outside to allow the child's mother to leave the mosque and take care of her child. He stopped his personal prayers if he noticed someone approaching to ask him something then resumed the prayers after the person's departure.

At home, he cleaned and mended his clothing repaired his shoes, milked his sheep and saddled his camel and horse. His servant reported that the Prophet never insulted, beaten, frowned to, or reprimanded him even when he didn't complete an assignment.
He was kind to animals and opened his door to a stray cat seeking shelter. One of his travelling companions once took 2 baby robins from a nest. When the Prophet saw the mother flapping her wings over the nest, he responded, "Who shocked this in her babies? Return her babies to her". He ordered his followers not to use animals for target practice. He also ordered those who slaughtered animals for food to sharpen their blades and not to slaughter an animal in view of another animal.

He lived a very simple life and donated anything he earned or received beyond his minimum requirements to the needy on a daily basis. He placed his faith in God to provide for his future needs.

He prayed frequently which meant his body and clothing were always clean since Muslims must complete a cleansing ritual before praying.

He ate only when hungry and never reached his fill. He brushed his teeth after every meal. He advised his companions to keep one third of their stomach for food, one third for beverages, and one third for themselves.

The Prophet Muhammad once summarized his code to be: "mindfulness of God privately and publicly, fairness in anger or satisfaction, moderation in poverty or wealth, connecting with those who avoided him, giving to those who deprived him, forgiving those who wronged him, speaking out for what is good, and making his silence a meditation, his speech a recital of the name of God, and what he saw a lesson." This statement rhymes nicely in Arabic.

Saturday, July 9, 2011

On the importance of patience (hadeeth)

Todays posting will be a single hadeeth...... To think about, how much patience we really have, and how strong our emaan really is: 

Suhaib (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "There lived a king before you and he had a court magician. As he (the magician) grew old, he said to the king: `I have grown old, so send me a young boy in order to teach him magic.' The king sent him a young boy to serve the purpose. And on his way (to the magician) the young boy met a monk to whom he listened to and liked it. It became his habit that on his way to the magician, he would meet the monk and sit there and would come to the magician (late). The magician used to beat him because of this delay. He complained about this to the monk who said to him: 'When you feel afraid of the magician, say: Members of my family detained me. And when you fear your family, say: The magician detained me.' It so happened that there came a huge beast and it blocked the way of the people, and the young boy said: 'I will know today whether the magician or the monk is better.' He picked up a stone and said: `O Allah, if the way of the monk is dearer to You than the way of the magician, bring about death to the animal so that the people be able to move about freely.' He threw that stone at it and killed it and the people began to move about freely. He then came to the monk and told him the story. The monk said: `Son, today you are superior to me. You have come to a stage where I feel that you would be soon put to a trial, and in case you are put to a trial, do not reveal me.' That young boy began to heal those born blind and the lepers and he, in fact, began to cure people from all kinds of illnesses. When a courtier of the king who had gone blind heard about him, he came to him with numerous gifts and said, `If you cure me, all these things will be yours.' He said, `I myself do not cure anyone. It is Allah, the Exalted, Alone Who cures; and if you affirm faith in Allah, I shall also supplicate to Allah to cure you.' This courtier affirmed his faith in Allah and Allah cured him. He came to the king and sat by his side as he used to sit before. The king said to him, `Who restored your eyesight?' He said, `My Rubb.' Thereupon he said, 'Do you have another lord besides me?' He said, `My Rubb and your Rubb is Allah.' So the king kept torturing him untill he revealed the young boy. The young boy was thus summoned and the king said to him, 'O boy, it has been conveyed to me that you have become so much proficient in your magic that you cure the blind and the lepers and you do such and such.' Thereupon he said, `I do not cure anyone; it is Allah Alone Who cures,' and the king took hold of him and began to torture him until he revealed of the monk. The monk was summoned and it was said to him: `You should turn back from your religion.' But he refused. The king sent for a saw, placed it in the middle of his head and cut him into two parts that fell down. Then the courtier of the king was brought forward and it was said to him: `Turn back from your religion.' He, too, refused, and the saw was placed in the midst of his head and he was torn into two parts. Then the boy was sent for and it was said to him: `Turn back from your religion.' He refused. The king then handed him over to a group of his courtiers, and said to them: `Take him to such and such mountain; make him climb up that mountain and when you reach its peak ask him to renounce his Faith. If he refuses to do so, push him to his death.' So they took him and made him climb up the mountain and he said: `O Allah, save me from them in any way you like,' and the mountain began to shake and they all fell down (dead) and that young boy came walking to the king. The king said to him, `What happened to your companions?' He said, `Allah has saved me from them.' He again handed him to some of his courtiers and said: `Take him and carry him in a boat and when you reach the middle of the sea, ask him to renounce his religion. If he does not renounce his religion throw him (into the water).' So they took him and he said: `O Allah, save me from them.' The boat turned upside down and they all drowned except the young boy who came walking to the king. The king said to him, `What happened to your companions?' He said, `Allah has saved me from them,' and he said to the king: `You cannot kill me until you do what I command you to do.' The king asked, `What is that?' He said, `Gather all people in one place and tie me up to the trunk of a tree, then take an arrow from my quiver and say: With the Name of Allah, the Rubb of the boy; then shoot me. If you do that you will be able to kill me.' `The king called the people in an open field and tied the young boy to the trunk of a tree. He took out an arrow from his quiver, fixed in the bow and said, `With the Name of Allah, the Rubb of the young boy,' he then shot the arrow and it hit the boy's temple. The young boy placed his hand upon the temple where the arrow had hit him and died. The people then said: `We believe in the Rubb of this young boy.' The king was told: `Do you see what you were afraid of, by Allah it has taken place; all people have believed.' The king then commanded that trenches be dug and fire lit in them, and said: `He who would not turn back from his (the young boy's) religion,  throw him in the fire' or `he would be ordered to jump into it.' They did so till a woman came with her child. She felt hesitant in jumping into the fire. The child said to her: `O mother! Endure (this ordeal) for you are on the Right Path".
[Muslim].

 
Commentary:
1. The most important lesson of this Hadith is that whatever difficulties one has to face on the path of Deen, he should endure it with patience and determination; and if interest of the Deen requires, one should sacrifice his life for it.
2. The wonders displayed by righteous people are true. When Allah's Will and Wisdom requires, He manifests these wonders through His slaves.
3. It is a proof of the truth of the Qur'an that it has retold the great historical event like Ashab-ul-Ukhdud which, buried in the dust of ages, had long been forgotten.
4. It is not possible to explain and interpret the Qur'an without the help of Ahadith. The event of Ashsb-ul-Ukhdud mentioned in the Qur'an is an instance in point. It is the Hadith that has brought into light the details of the event and clarified its ambiguity.
5. Such incidents are a source of strength for the faith of true believers.

Friday, July 8, 2011

Smile and say Alhamdulillah (Praise be to Allah). - AN AMAZING STORY.

Abdullah would say Alhamdulillah to everything that would happen to him, whether good or bad. One day while hunting, the King accidently shot-off his finger and Abdullah responded with his normal, "Alhamdulillah".

This Upset, the King he jailed Abdullah to which Abdullah again responded "Alhamdulillah". Soon thereafter, the King went out hunting again by himself. He strayed into tribal enemy grounds and was captured.

The tribe was about to sacrifice him before they realized he was missing a finger. Knowing full-well they should not sacrifice an incomplete human being, they released the King.

Ecstatic, the King knew that his misfiring the other day saved his life. He went back home and freed Abdullah. Afterwards, he asked Abdullah,

“I understand the loss of my finger was something worth saying "Alhamdulillah" over, but why did you say it when I jailed you?” Abdullah responded,

“Had I been with you that one day instead of in jail, I would have been sacrificed, since I did have all of my fingers!”.

Allah(swt) say's in the Quran

سورة البقرة
Al-Baqara | The Cow
Chapter 2 | Verse 216

كُتِبَ عَلَيْكُمُ الْقِتَالُ وَهُوَ كُرْهٌ لَكُمْ ۖ وَعَسَىٰ أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَكُمْ ۖ وَعَسَىٰ أَنْ تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ

Jihâd (holy fighting in Allâh's Cause) is ordained for you (Muslims) though you dislike it, and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allâh knows but you do not know.

Therefore, Brothers and Sisters, always be optimistic and respond with "Alhamdulillah" and Remember that Everything happens with you is for GOOD.

It's About Sabr (Patience) and Sukr (Gratitude) Remeber always Smile and say Alhamdulillah (Praise be to Allah)

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Women and jeans

For those who can't read arabic: the comment on the upper part of the picture is: for the sake of Allah....... and below: for the sake of the slave of Allah.....  First time i saw this picture it made me laugh, coz somehow it is sooo true. We all love to attract, and we all want to be part of a society. So a part of our dress is somehow always a way of integration in the society we are living in, a part of it is probably for the sake of Allah, the other part for the surroundings. The dress of a muslima is always influenced from the cultural environment she is living in. So for example a khaleeji arab girl is usually wearing black abaya even if she is not that much religious, a nord african hijabi most probably a caftan with hijab, a muslima with asien background probably a shalwar kameez with hijab, a muslima raised in Europe probably jeans with long-sleeves shirt and headscarf.... without even thinking over wether her dress is really fitting in the concept of islamic modesty. Islam and islamic dress code is and should be free from cultural influence. Wearing jeans is such a cultural influence. Not even women of the western society were wearing jeans before the feminism. Women in pants became an expression for that what feminism tried to claim: women would be equal to men. Al hamdoulillah islam was the first religion which gave similar rights for women, without jaming them into roles, which were not meant to be for women.
Regarding the cloths from women.... in islam there are 8 conditions which must be fullfilled:

      1-      It should cover the entire body, except the face and hands.    
                related by Abu Dawood: "Ayesha(r) reported that Asmaa bint Abu Bakr(r)
        came to the Messenger of Allah(swt) while wearing thin clothing. He
        approached her and said: 'O Asmaa! When a girl reaches the menstrual age,
        it is not proper that anything should remain exposed except this and this.'
        He pointed to the face and hands."
2-      It must be wide and loose, not showing the size of her limbs or the shape      of her body.
3-      It should not be thin, showing the colour of her skin.
4-      It should not be an adornment in and of itself
5-      It should not be perfumed.
6-    It should not resemble the clothing of men. (Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: Allah's Apostle cursed those men who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of women and those women who are in the similitude of men.  Sahih Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 72, Number 773)

7-    It should not resemble the dress of kaafir women. (It was narrated that Ibn ‘Umar said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Whoever imitates a people is one of them.’” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, al-Libaas, 3512. Al-Albaani said in Saheeh Abi Dawood, (it is) hasan saheeh. No. 3401). Al-Munaawi and al-‘Alqami said: i.e., dressing as they dress, following their way of life in clothes and some of the things they do.

8-      It should not be a dress of fame and vanity.

Based on this, a woman should not appear in front of men wearing pants or trousers, also jeans, for three reasons: 
1 – They show the shape of the woman’s legs
2 – Wearing them is an imitation of men 
( as pants are traditionally mens wear ) and there is a hadeeth which says: Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: Allah's Apostle cursed those men who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of women and those women who are in the similitude of men.
Sahih Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 72, Number 773

3   it is immitating the kuffar ( even in the western world,women didn't wear pants before the last century) and it is haram for us muslims to immitate the kuffar.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: I think that the Muslims should not follow these fashions and kinds of clothes that come to us from here and there. Many of them are not in accordance with proper Islamic dress which involves covering the woman completely, like the short or very tight or thin clothes. That includes pants, because they show the size of a woman’s legs, as well as her stomach, waist, breasts, etc. Wearing it comes under the description given in the saheeh hadeeth: “there are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen: people with whips like the tails of cattle, with which they strike the people, and women who are clothed yet naked, walking with an enticing gait, with something on their heads that looks like the humps of camels, leaning to one side. They will never enter Paradise or even smell its fragrance, although its fragrance can be detected from such and such a distance.” 

This hadeeth was narrated by Muslim, 2128.
He also said: What I think is that it is haraam for women to wear pants, because they are an imitation of men. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed women who imitate men. It also takes modesty away from the woman, because it opens the door to wearing the clothes of the people of Hell, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen…” and he described one of them as being, “women who are clothed yet naked, walking with an enticing gait, with something on their heads that looks like the humps of camels, leaning to one side. They will never enter Paradise or even smell its fragrance, although its fragrance can be detected from such and such a distance.” 
End quote from Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 12, question no. 192, 104. 
It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (17/102): It is not permissible for (a woman) to wear pants, because that involves women resembling men.
Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan (may Allaah preserve him) was asked: Is it mustahabb or waajib for a woman to make her dress long? Is wearing socks on the feet sufficient if the dress is shortened only so much that nothing of the calf shows? How should a woman lengthen her dress by a cubit – below the ankle or below the knee? 
He replied: What is required of the Muslim woman is to cover all her body in front of men, hence she is allowed to lengthen her garment by a cubit so as to cover her feet, whereas men are forbidden to let their garments hang below their ankles. This indicates that women are required to cover all of their bodies. If a woman wears socks that is doing something extra to be more on the safe side with regard to covering, which is something good. She should also make her garment long, as described in the hadeeth. And Allaah is the Source of strength. End quote. Al-Muntaqa min Fataawa al-Shaykh al-Fawzaan, 5/334. 
The point is that a woman’s jilbab should be wide and come down to her ankles or more. If it is short and comes a handspan above the ankles, that is not permissible even if she covers her calves and feet with pants or socks, because that is imitating men who are enjoined to make their garments short, above the ankles. It also shows the shape and size of her feet. 
And Allaah knows best.
So far the fatwas to the subject..... there are a few more, but this ones are giving valid reason and logical argumentations. I think the picture above makes it clear enough: a headscarf is not equal to hijab and modest covering. Actually the dresscode described in the Quoran, and often missinterpreted/misstranslated as outer garment, is the JALABIB.  {"O Prophet, tell your wives and daughters and the believing women to draw their outer garments around them (when they go out or are among men). That is better in order that they may be known (to be Muslims) and not annoyed..." (Qur'an 33:59) }  = {Ya ayyuha an-Nabiyy qul li azwajika wa banatika wa nisa al-mu'minin yudnina alayhinna min jalabib hinna; dhalika adna an yu'rafna fa laa yu'dhayn. Wa kana Allahu Ghafur Rahim}
The reason for missinterpretations: there is no equal word in english or any other languages for the arabic word jilbab, or plural jalabib. Therefor translators usually represent the word jalabib with general terms like cloaks or outer garments. Jalabib, or jilbab is in fact nothing else as the abaya, today mainly worn by women of the arabic gulf countries. So far the only piece of cloth which is fullfilling the requierement of not showing the shape of body.

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

On women wearing high heels............

Todays topic: is it allowed to wear high heels for muslim women, is it makrouh or is it even haram? First of all............ this article is not made to point with the finger on someone, nor as backbiting....... This topic came to my mind as i spent the last 6 months in UAE and i came a few things across which were really shocking. Being a typical "abaya-girl" i used to debatte on topics like: are jeans and generally pants allowed for women in islam? Is hijab compulsory (fard) for us muslim women? etc........ During my time in Dubai i realised im addicted to abayas, to an extent that i even started to design myself. In the typical khaleeji style, which i really prefer compaired to the so called T-shirt abayas, mainly worn in the "balad sham" (Syria, Lebanon, Jordania). This T-shirt abayas are very simple, so far fitting in the concept of modesty, but in some cases, specially when the muslima got some curves, are not really covering perfectly. The khaleeji abayas are bigger, mostly in kimono-style, with really loose sleeves, or even in butterfly style, which are not showing the shape of the body at all. This abayas became a fashion-statement in todays arab-gulf countries. What i really adore about them: the most famous designers of this abayas are women, against the designers of the western world, where the whole fashion and cosmetic industry is mainly dominated by men. 
BUT, and this is the sad fact about todays khaleej society: many of this abayas are open in the front,  and specially young girls are wearing skinny jeans below, showing the contour of their body, combined with high heels, which makes them looking taller......... and here we arrived by my topic: high heels for muslimas is it permissible or not??? By my research to this topic i found a few fatwas, let me share with you some of them...... 
According to the Majmoo’ Fataawa wa Maqaalaat li’l-Shaykh Ibn Baaz, 6/397: 

Praise be to Allaah.  
At the very least it is makrooh,
 Firstly because that involves deceit, as they are worn to make a woman look tall when she is not.
 Secondly they pose a danger to the woman, as she may fall.
 Thirdly they are harmful to a woman’s health, as has been stated by the doctors.

Well so far the fatwa on islam-qa.com regarding high heels. Farther i found: 
Wearing high heels is not permissible because it exposes women to the risk of falling, and we are commanded in sharee’ah to avoid danger in a general sense, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning)
“and do not throw yourselves into destruction”
[al-Baqarah 2:195] 
It also makes women look taller than they really are and makes their posteriors appear more prominent, and this is a kind of deception and showing the adornments which the believing woman is forbidden to show, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam)” [al-Noor 24:31] 
From Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, Majallat al-Buhooth, 9/46. 

Moreover, it also makes a woman lean forward (maa’ilah ila al-amaam), so there is the fear that the warning issued to those women who walk with an enticing gait (al-maa’ilaat al-mumilaat) may apply to her too [in the hadeeth which says that such women will never even smell the fragrance of Paradise from afar]. It also harms the back, as has been proven medically. The heels also make a sound which attracts the attention of men and is a temptation to them. We ask Allaah to keep us all safe and sound.

Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

Myself found the third point of the first fatwa much more interesting:
they are harmful to a woman’s health, as has been stated by the doctors.
Than what do toe pain, mid foot pain, heel pain, ankle pain, knee pain, hip pain, lower back pain, mid back pain, upper back pain, and headaches all have in common?
They can all be caused by wearing high heels on a regular basis.
Recent research suggests that up to a third of women suffer permanent problems as a result of their prolonged wearing of 'killer heels', ranging from hammer toes and bunions to irreversible damage to leg tendons.
Many of the problems - which can occur simultaneously - are caused by the increased pressure high heels put on the ball of the foot; the higher the heel, the greater the pressure. The knee and back can also be affected.
High heels in the form of stilettos first became popular in the Thirties, but while heels used to be largely 'special occasion' wear, thanks to the success of shows such as Sex And The City they have become de rigueur for every day.
One in ten women wears them at least three days a week, and a recent survey found a third had hurt themselves falling while wearing high heels.
There are other consequences, as consultant podiatric surgeon Mike O'Neill, spokesman for the Society of Chiropodists and Podiatrists, explains: 'High heels make you raise your heel and as soon as you do that your centre of gravity is pushed forward.
'What happens then is you bend your lower back to compensate for this and that changes the position of your spine, putting pressure on nerves in the back.'
This can cause sciatica, a painful condition where nerves become trapped, triggering pain and numbness as far down as the feet. Another common problem, says O'Neill, is that the Achilles tendon - which runs up the back of the leg from the heel - becomes permanently damaged.
'This tendon is designed to be flexible, so the foot can lie flat or point. But many women who wear high heels too often suffer a shortening of the tendon because once the heel is pointed upwards, it tightens up. Stretching it again can be very painful.
'When you try to put your foot into flat shoes you get a lot of pain in the back of the heel. I've seen 70-year-olds still hobbling around in high heels because they can't put their feet flat any more, it's just too painful.'
Most women can avoid this by sticking to heels no higher than 1.5in, he adds. But 3in or more can shorten the Achilles tendon - and you don't have to be wearing them every day, just more than once or twice a week.
Other common complaints include bunions, bony growths at the base of the big toe caused by tight, ill-fitting shoes, and socalled 'pump bumps', where straps and the rigid backs of pump-style shoes cause a bony enlargement on the heel.
Many women also develop hammertoes, where tight-fitting shoes force them to crumple up their toes, shortening the muscles inside and leaving them permanently bent.
The risks to today's teenagers are thought to be particularly great as they begin wearing high heels at an early age, before their bodies are fully developed. They run the risk of hip trouble in adulthood and problems with back pain from the stress placed on their spines as youngsters.

None of the fatwas is really stressing out, that high heels are mostly worn for attracting more attention, particularly the attention of the opposit sex. 

All in one: high heels are not really fitting in the concept of modest covering, so my approach for all sisters who are confidently wearing hijab or niqab: please, for God sake: avoid high heels. 


And Allah knows best............ 

Sunday, July 3, 2011

Salam Walaykoum wrahmatoullahi wbaraketou........

After a long while im back to writing again. I was neglecting my blog for some private reasons, such as moving back from Dubai to Zürich, and trying to resolve my life in Europe. Though it is still not all in balance but al hamdoulillah, so far less stress than before............ Back to my blog: i will try to post to different islamic topics, sharing different views from different scholars or muftis on the same topic, without wanting to judge or decide which way is right. I'm not a scholar nor am i qualified to give rulings, all i can do, is to share some rulings, fatwas, hadeeths and quoranic verses (with qualified tafseer inshaAllah).
Also i will try to share some links to islamic homepages, interesting blogs etc......
I hope you will follow up in future too, and share my blog with your friends.

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Beautifull indian revert story............


The story u r going to read today wasn't written from me. I came it across on the facebook wall of one of my friends and i was so amazed from it, that i had to share it here, as i think it can be a great inspiration for all of us: born and revert muslims, and even non-muslims, equally:

Mulaqaat with Sister Ayesha (Balwindra Kaur)

By ASMA ZATUL FAUZIN

Asma: Alsalam Alaikum Wa Rahhat Ullah Barkathoo.
Ayesha: Walaiku Salam Wa Rahhat Ullah Barkathoo.
Q: Sister Aysha. What is the matter that you came here after such
a long time
A: Sister Asma I was so eager to come but I could not get
Hazrat Saheb on phone. By chance I got him and took an
appointment to come here.
Q: Actually from Phulat an Urdu magazine ARMUGHAN is
published. My father has ordered me to take you interview for this
magazine
A: Oh yes I know ARMUGHAN very well. I have picked up a little
Urdu and can read ARMUGHAN with some difficulty.
Q: First of all you give your family background and introduction.
A: I was born on 3rd June 1965 in a Sikh family of Ferozpur
district (Punjab). My father Shri Fatah Singh was a Zamindar of the
area. I graduated from Guru Govind Singh College and was
married in an educated family of Jalandhar. At that time my
husband was a station officer in police. Due to hard work he was
promoted to rank of Deputy S.P. I have got two sons and a
daughter and all of them are studying.
Q: Now please tell about coming to fold of ISLAM.
A: I had a younger sister Asha who was very pretty. My father
married her also to a police station officer. Our father loved her
very much. After marriage she fell ill and despite all possible
treatment she did not recover. Her husband also took her to Delhi
for treatment but to no avail. He even took her to sooth Sayers and
exorcist. She was taken to a Muslim lady "Baji" at Malerkotla, who
gave her a talisman which gave her relief. Then she explained to
Asha "Look you cannot stand this misery for few days, then how
could you face the eternal torment of hell? Please think over it and
embrace ISLAM. If willing, I'll send you to Hazrat Saheb at Phulat
and there by grace of Allah you will be cured completely. Asha
told her that she would consult her husband. But the lady told her
that in case of faith there is no need of consulting husband. If he
did not allow you to do so, or beat you, there was no option. Then
she would recieve pleasure of her Lord Allah and get entry in
paradise. But Asha said that it was necessary for her to consult the
family before taking any decision. The lady asked her to expedite.
Asha came back to Bhatinda and told everything to her husband
and said that she was feeling much better and would regain
perfect heath only when she becomes a Muslim. Her husband
loved her very much. He said "Do whatever you like but become
healthy and cheerful again. I will be happy". Then Asha rang to
Baji and asked Hazrat Saheb's address so that she could go there
and embrace ISLAM. She gave her Hazrat Saheb (Maulana
Kaleem's) telephone number and on 25th May Asha rang Mulana
Saheb and sought his permission to come to him and recite
Kalma. Maulana Saheb told her that it would be better for her to
recite Kalma at Malerkotla. Asha said that she would prefer to do
so before him. But Maulana said, "Look sister, even healthy man
does not know when he would meet death. You are already sick
therefore it is better for you to recite Kalma immediately on phone.
You can renew it here later on". Asha agreed and recited the
Kalma on phone. Maulana explained to her certain fundamentals
of ISLAM, named her Ayesha (on the name of Prophet
Mohammad's wife) and asked her to learn prayers and desist from
puja and other polytheistic rites. After this conversation she told
everybody including her husband and myself about her ISLAM. I
did not like that she had changed her religion. But she was happy
and I could feel that her face was shining in a peculiar way. When I
asked her the reason, she told me that it was light of faith. She
looked quite healthy and cheerful. After long time that she had
cooked food and ate with family members. Before retiring to bed
she took a bath and started reciting Kalma which was written on a
piece of paper. She learnt it fully but then she fell in delirium and
started talking nonsense. She said, “There is a Palace of gold.
There is a place in paradise for me and people have bought
beautiful flowers for me. I am going to heaven." Then she recited
Kalma thrice and fell on her side. The doctor declared her dead.
The whole family was shocked and started lamenting and crying.
The family decided that she should be buried as per Muslim rites.
Accordingly, many Muslims from Malerkotla came and buried her
in local grave yard.
Q: This is very strange story of your sister's coming to Islamic fold.
Her death was quite ideal and pure without any prayer, fast or any
Islamic action. Actually her death is envious for us. Now narrate
the events of your acceptance of Islam.
A: My conversion is knit with the steps taken by Ayesha. We loved
each other very much. Her sudden death broke me down
completely. Frequently I thought about her one day's life after
embracing Islam and her death with smile and her enviable joy on
departing from prison of this life to the paradise just after recitation
of Kalma. I have seen many people dying and was horrified to see
their agony and pain. They breathed their last with great difficulty. I
wondered how Asha met such easy and cheerful end.
One night I dreamt that Ayesha was sitting on a throne with a pillow. She
was clad in jewels and pearl clothes, with a Crown on her head like a
princess. I asked her the reason of such a nice death. She replied that it
was due to faith (IMAAN) she said "Sister living a day with faith is more
precious than hundreds of years of life without IMAAN. If you do not
believe it, just try and be a Muslim for a few days."
When I woke up my heart was full of desire to become a Muslim
for few days. I discussed it with my husband who was worried to
see my grief and sad plight. So he allowed me to do so but also
showed his apprehensions about my sudden death like Asha. I told
him that in case of my death I would go to paradise and he should
get a second wife with an assurance that she would not torture my
children. After two days, through Baji of Malerkotla I got an
appointment with Maulana Kaleem Saheb. First on phone I told
him my desire to become Muslim for a week on trial bases and told
about sudden and surprising death of Asha after her conversion.
After some hesitation Maulana permitted me to come to him. I
along with my grandmother and maid went to Khatauli by train and
reached Phulat by car sent by Maulana Saheb. After taking bath
and breakfast we met the family members of Hazrat Saheb. These
ladies told me that a week's conversion to Islam was meaningless
and it must be for the whole life. I was upset to think of permanent
change of faith and its effects. In the afternoon Maulana also came
and promised to talk to me in detail during night because he had to
attend to so many guests waiting for him. Meanwhile, I read "Aap
ki Aamanat Aap ki Seva Men" thrice and finally decided to
embrace Islam forever. After Maghreb Prayers, Maulana came to
me and explained to me the value and benefits of Islam. Then with
my consent he asked me to recite Kalma and christened me
Ayesha on the name of Prophet Mohammad's favorite wife, Hazrat
Ayesha. I noticed that while talking to me Maulana was looking
toward his family women. I asked him the reason of this. He
replied that Islam commanded its followers to observe Parda and
separation between males and females. All the women with whom
a Muslim male can establish marriage relation were Namehrem to
him i.e. they should hide themselves from him. Maulana told me
that actually he should have talked with me behind a curtain, but in
order to keep me at ease he turned his face to the other side and
in Dawah work some leniency was permitted. Then I enquired him
why he did not ask me to recite Kalma on phone like Asha and
called me to Phulat. He confessed his mistake and said that it
would have been better as delay should not happen in recting
Kalma. One should always remember uncertainly of life. He further
told me that talking to Asha on phone he apprehended her quick
end and therefore he asked her to recite Kalma immediately on
phone. But in your case this did not occur to him and he called me
here. Then he stressed upon me the importance and need of
IMAAN forever. He warned me about apparent hardships and
dangers of conversion and urged me to face all unpleased
consequences with patience and spirit of sacrifice. He explained to
the benefits of Islam, Prayers and Other articles of faith. Then he
enquired about my grandmother and maid and preached them to
become Muslims. Both of them were already inclined towards
Islam. So they also recited Kalma. Hazrat named my Grandmother
AMINA and maid MARIA. Sister Muneera and Ammi Jaan treated
us very well and helped us learn Prayers and other fundamentals
of ISLAM. We happily returned to our home.
1. After your return please tell us about what all happened.
2. While bidding us farewell Hazrat Saheb advised me to get my
husband, children and other relatives converted to Islam and to
save them from clutches of hell. Further, he made it clear to me
that such tests and trials in the way of Islam and Iman may
bring hardship and danger but would enhance my stature in the
eyes of Allah.
I told everything to my husband and urged him to embrace Islam
because I had become Muslim for ever. Since he loved me
passionately, he took my talks lightly at first. But when I
pressurized him for conversion, he became furious and asked me
to leave Islamic fold. I rang up Maulana Saheb and asked him if a
Muslim woman could live as a wife of a Sikh. Maulana replied that
in my case the marriage had become null and void. However in
order to persuade the husband and family members, I might stay
with him but with due care and restraint. This put me in a very
tense situation. I felt very uneasy to live with him. Every day we
quarreled bitterly. I again approached Maulana Saheb who
advised me to offer TaHajjud prayers and make special prayers to
Allah. I followed his instructions and spent whole night in saying
prayers and beseeching Allah's blessing and help. My Allah
responded to my prayers. The next night when I pressed hard my
husband to become Muslim he finally gave up. He said to me "I am
fed up with these daily quarrels. If you are pleased to see me a
Muslim, get me converted to Islam". I told him that to become a
Muslim for my pleasures sake was quite useless, and he must do it
to please his Creator who sees and knows everything. Then I gave
him Maulana's book Aap Ki Aamanat to read. Earlier he used to
throw it but this time he took it and read it minutely. I noticed that
colour of his face was changing while reading the book, Then he
loudly recited KALMA SHAHADAT three times and said. "I am now
reciting Kalma not to please you but to please my Creator Allah."
His reciting of Kalma made me extremely happy and after two
month of turmoil and bitterness, I got peace and relief. Next day he
got transfer order for ROPAR and went there. After a week he
went to check security arrangement and was standing near
boundary wall of a college when due to gush of furious storm the
wall collapsed and my husband died under its debris. Sister Asma
I could not tell you the intensity of grief and shock felt by me on
this ghastly tragedy. But by Allah's Grace I faced the
bereavements with courage. I was satisfied that after embracing
Islam my husband got entry in paradise through this accident and I
felt assured that I would also be admitted in paradise. About his
KIRYA KARAM (Last rites) trouble arose because his family
members claimed to be the rightful heir of the deceased. D.I.G.,
I.G and other officers also intervened. Finally it was decided to
erect a SAMADHI for him. But I called a local Maulvi Saheb who
offered JANAZA Prayers for him.
Q: Then did you return to Jalandhar?
A: Yes! And as directed by Hazrat Saheb I spent IDDAT (Period
of Mourning) there. Then my brother staying at London called me
there and I tried to get my passport issued. Meanwhile I saw
KAABA in a dream and told it to Maulana along with my desire to
perform HAJJ. Maulana Saheb told me that HAJJ was obligatory
on me. But I could not perform it without a Mehram. He advised
me to marry again. But my desire to go for HAJJ was intensified to
the level of madness. I made a number of trips to Phulat and Delhi,
met scores of travel agents but could not succeed to go on HAJJ
voyage. I used to weep bitterly and prayers to Allah for fulfillment
of my desire. Three Days before Baqrid I was over whelmed and
became unconscious at the time of TAHAJJUD. It a state of Halfawakening,
I saw HAJJ scarf on my head and myself going to
mina and Arafat. I performed complete HAJJ. When I woke up my
heart was full of joy. I phoned to Maulana Kaleem Saheb who was
in Makkah at the time. He was stunned to hear details given by
me.
Q: My Father told me that you Performed HAJJ last year actually.
A: Yes! I am so grateful to Allah that after HAJJ in Dream, I
prevailed upon one of my brothers to embrace Islam and then both
of us Performed HAJJ last year.
Q: Have you any Message for ARMUGHAN?
A: Like Sister Ayesha I also repeat that one day life with IMAN is
better than 100 years life without IMAN. Pray for all of us to be
admitted in paradise. Thanks.